BRADENTON – We count on doctors and surgeons to get our loved ones back on their feet and healthy again, but one Suncoast snow bird says we have an important job too.
Here’s the scenario: your loved one is in and out of hospitals for nearly 24 years. “At one point in one of my illnesses I had, I believe 23 different doctors and specialists and unfortunately doctors don’t like to communicate with one another,” says Bob Friedman.
What to do? If you’re Bob’s wife, Bonnie Friedman, you write a book so no one has to go through a similar experience. “I think one of the issues is how fragmented medicine is,” says Bonnie Friedman.
Friedman’s book is called, Hospital Warrior How to Get the Best Care for Your Loved One. “I had learned so much that I was just brimming with the need to share it to help others,” she says.
With so many doctors and specialties, she says medicine gets confusing. “No one seems to be connecting the dots,” says Friedman.
Her number one tip: write it all down. “Carry a notebook everywhere you go, and you write down all the things that are going on,” says Friedman.
Always keep a clear head. “If you get emotional, if you get angry or scatter brained, you’re not going to make good use of your time,” says Friedman.
Another big tip: your health is just as important as the patient’s. “You can’t do anyone any good, least of all the patient if you’re exhausted, if you get sick, and if you end up in the hospital too,” says Friedman.
Bonnie says your role can make the difference between life and death, but don’t let it overwhelm you. “It’s important to take a deep breath and remember that you can only do the best you can do, but it’s better than not doing anything at all,” she says.
“I think that in large part is why I’m here today,” says Bob Friedman.
For more information about the book, you can visit the website.